So many of us have found ourselves wishing we could instill in our children the real values of self-worth. Not the kind that wins a trophy just for showing up, but the kind that earns lifelong rewards for working hard, getting up after a fall, and fighting for what’s right. Even when it’s hard. Even when it’s unpopular. We want them to get up because they know who they are and they’re not going to let anyone take that away.
The best way to do that is to role model those behaviors; which means, of course, that our backbones must be lined with a kind of integrity that allows us to hold our heads high in our own, authentic ways. This page is designed to supplement those “do as I do” lessons with resources that support your efforts to be thoughtful, intentional parents.
Our girls have a voice and our job is to help them figure out how to use it. In this most confusing time in our society girls need not only constant reminding of their inherent value but also consistent skill building around recognizing and using their power. The awesome website for girls, NewMoon has a new page on its website to support girls in their quest to be social activists. With a variety of ways to get involved, it honors and empowers the extroverts, the introverts, and everyone in between as they aim to promote “Young Voices for Justice.” What better way to teach our girls just how powerful their voice is than with real world ways to practice using it (that just might do our country some good along the way)?
I give 10% of all workshop and course fees for all of my work to non-profit foundations that promote a similar mission to mine, one local, one national, and one international. While we all know Girls, Inc. (my local) and most of us have heard of Kiva (my international), I chose my national non-profit from an idea I got from my #wearewildflowers husband, Craig Elliott. It’s called Feminist Frequency, a small but fierce organization dedicated to the critique of how women are portrayed in pop culture and the effect that portrayal has on girls. The seminal piece for me is her video on Legos, putting into words my deep and inarticulate frustration as I walked down the pink aisle shopping for my niece and cousins. Check it out and, if you’re into it, explore what else she has to say to decide how it might inform your own consumption of pop culture for your children.
This month’s resource is A Mighty Girl, an awesome website and community dedicated to raising strong girls, who embrace their true selves and their rightful place in the world. The site includes lists of books, music, t-shirts, and stories — “The world’s largest collection of books, toys and movies for smart, confident, and courageous girls.”
Last month’s resource was also created for girls, however the lesson is for us all. Whether you watch this film yourself or with your children, allow its lessons to inform the decisions you make raising the next generation of women and men who, if we do our jobs right, will be far better off not for what they have, but for who they are allowed to become. I offer you, Miss Representation
“You can’t be what you can’t see.”